Heat 1/4 water in a thick vessel. Add the flour to the water and stir thoroughly so that the dough is cooked and becomes a thick paste. when it is cold and soft make this into small balls. Place this balls inside a plate inside a pressure cooker and steam them . Mix one cup of milk and 1 cup of water and heat. Add the balls into the milk and allow to boil. When fully cooked the balls will float on top. Collect these balls in a separate vessel Grind the coconut into a nice paste .Once all the balls are cooked heat the remaining milk and add the ground coconut. Heat until it is cooked well. Add sugar /Jaggery and stir well . Add the cooked balls . Roast the cardomom in ghee and add it to the mix. Serve hot